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serita - 11/06/2009 22:36:52
   
My brother
I just want to know if anyone out there can tell me how long it takes to start to feeling better after a death. My brother died 9 weeks ago and it still feels the same as it did on the day I heard the news that seemed to stop my life. My mum phoned me from the hospital and told me my bro was in an accident on the motorway. His motorbike was hardly marked but my brother was not so lucky. The pain I feel today is just the same. I think about it all the time and think about the motorbike and what happened. I have my own images going round and round in my head and don’t know if they are anything like what really happened. 
 
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thomas - 11/06/2009 22:37:47
 
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RE:My brother
It don’t know if it will be the same for you but I lost my dad in an accident and the last image I had of him was on life support in hospital. For months I couldn’t think of him as he was before and all that I could see in my mind was him in hospital. One day after about 4 months, I woke up thinking of my dad when he was alive and happy and making things in his workshop. The hospital images didn’t go away but they faded and now a year on, I hardly ever think of those long cold dark days of the hospital. I nearly always think of my dad as being happy and busy and joking with us.
 
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